My Boomer Tips
I love him and took care of him more than most Grandmothers do it was 7 days a week 14hrs to 17 + 24 hour , weeks at a time until he was 28 months old he was withh his Nana is what he called me we didactivitiess I boughtevery thingig a day care would have and had the extra love to lavish upon him he was not spoiled just well loved and taken care of. we made his first cards for mothers day fathers day .... of course he tore most of it but it was a teaching to early process,. We would go and spend the weekend witmy onlyl son ( whom had gotten a little jealous )that went away when he saw how much work it was and I made him help me I hade to unload the suv so he would have his comfort we went through his first pull up on items and his first time his craweld his first tooth and then many more things Iwas greatful for yes they cry but Iwas able to comfort him better than I had my own, a grandparents love is different, age, time, mature less stress. Well I started chargeing not much, then my daughter choose not to pay me the first day I got my car, things got heated and she said she nolonger wanted me in her life. ?? Pain has been horrible then she choose to let me have the bby after 3 months overnight and he did not want o go home he and I played and cuddled, my parents had a time with him ( as we all live together) but when I took him home he did not wantout of the car he wanted to hold on to me and not let me go my daughter had already been natsy on the ohone and worse whenI got there I stayed outside and palyed with him a short while longer and then he came to me not wanting his parents crying and his dad took him from me and I ran off so he could not see me leave. I cried like a baby on the way home over the entire ordeal, knowing Iwas his security and love for so long and then Iwas gone it has had to hurt him as it has me. To my dughter I am dead unless it is gift time, show time for the rich n laws, my daughter Graduate from H/S & College not the one I wanted but she went, I raised her the best I could as a divorced mother and a dead beat dad who was not in her life and taught her how to change the oil in her own car if things got bad and she need to depend on herself she has turned into someone I do not know, I rufuse to hurt my grandosn by my selfish needsof love and wanting to see him because it hurts him and we never kow when she is going to pull the no you have to ask my husband trick or No you can not see him, or they treat me like I'm looking for a man everytime one of there male vistors come over?? I have been alone 17 years because I want to I'm not a run around indecent woman, I do not drink ,use drugs and stopped smoking 18 months ago. I just think my grandson is better off not being hurt by this childish behavior that is our of my control. They are hurting him enough and me enough. When you love some one so much you do not want to see them hurt any more and I love him that much .
Is tht so wrong? whenhis dad hit him in the head Iwanted to hit him in the head, and the baby was 16 months old it was with a hat but the baby picked it up and threw it bck at him and I told him he is was a shame he did not hit him back and I told my daughter in front of my son n law, what happened out of the ari he just threw his hat and hit him and they wonder why he has a temper, you hit me and I'm old but you have hell onyour hands. Unles your my grandson, they slap him in the face. Children live what they learn. Hate is a ugly thing to teach achild it hi=old them back in life.
This has not been a easy thing for me to decide it has cause pain and tears and made me sick to mu=y insides. but Ican not keep going through this with them and letting him and i both be hurt. If you are a parent listen to this a child is not a bargin toy they deserve love and not to be used for your own self needs. My daughter told me she has hated me may times and that was a word that was not allowed in my house,
Ihave his picture of him laughing and palying with me and memories of him cucddling and he is not a cuddle baby but the last time I had him hid did.
I di not take my love from him they took him from and only have aske me once to keep him I would Never hurt my grandson is it fair to him to have the love pulled away from his parents ( I never would have done such a thing ) If your daughter tells you you are bad for her and she wants nothing to do with you what can you do I have called I written emailed I tried from the time she was 12 t ofix what issues was shutingher down and I got no where but at this point.
Ihave called the CPS on one person to protect his children and he died 6 months later and we had been close it was my brother I loved him but I was made out to be a monester because of not accepting drugs being used around children, So do not think I'm thinking of myself when you seea baby grab you and not want ot let go, we both gone through hell. I have had no type of life since this happend so it, I love him more thanI love myself and think it would be to painful for him.
I can not bribe them I have spent all I had, I'm on a fixed income, w / a lot of medical bills, & medications, I have tried the therapy she is perfect in her eyes. I admit to my short coming and have done all I can, s
she does not want me in her life. I feel that I should be considered by her . I only wanted better for her and according to her therapist it is better without me. ( all her friends hate their moms) she has never found herself. Call me immature what have you but you have NO idea what this child who is 28 has put me through, she will grow up but it will be to late an she will have to learn how to live with it with out the alcohol killing the fellings and I pitty her because no one else would have gone through what I have with her, I just hope and pray God is as strong in her heart as he is in mine, thank you for your answers I think the support group is the best one, all. this is just one more thing for her to complain to others about.
Anyone who uses a chld and hurts them to gain wil loose in the long run. I just pray the child is sucessful in life. I have not seen that yet.
All grandparents my heart goes out to you and your grandcihildren.
All parents God help and fogive you.
If any chance given to a child it is for a teacher, mentor, someone out here to protect them that can and will without fear. Thank you all. I cannot say who is the best answer.
This had to be to most less selfish thing I have ever done is to think of him before I think of myself.
