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I have two teenage children 16,18 Boy & Girl, My sister who also has an 18 yrold son has to continually make remarks over the years on How her child dosent have to wear brand names to be somebody. My daughter 16 does choose to wear mostly name brands my son could care less. We dont buy our kids alot of clothes just as gifts at christmas and birthday's and they have 2 grandmothers who spoil them with most of their clothes. I dont ever judge my sister on the rearing of her son but she seems to always have something to say about the job I'm doing. My kids are good kids they stay out of trouble and do well in school and sports. I never hear anything about that. she is driving me insane. We don't live close..thank God, But I am finding myself avoiding calling her and visiting. She never really talks to me she just give's me constant advice in every area of my life. I never ask for it nor do I need it but she seems to think she's knows best and gets upset with me if I don't follow her ways...AGHHHHHH Anyone know whats up her @#$%^

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Horror still inhabited itself inside of Natalie. She felt like someone had taken vacuum cleaner and sucked everything out of her. For the past couple of days she hadn't been herself. Her hair wasn't combed, her face was bare, and her clothes have been unkempt. Everything about her was a complete wreck. Two days ago when Robert had done the worst thing he could ever think of, everything inside of her snapped. It had been the last strong. She had tried so hard to give her relationship with Robert a try, but it always backfired. Now she was finally doing the hardest thing possible; she was leaving Robert. After leaving her on the floor in front of the fireplace, Robert went upstairs to their bedroom. Natalie couldn't begin to think how terrified she was. She had been raped by her fiance. Not only that, but he had killed her dog. Seeing Copper's charred body in the fireplace was burned in the back of her brain. She had to put out the fire herself and clean up the the dog's remains. She was crying hysterically the whole time. She hadn't cried that hard since her grandmother passed away when she was twelve.
When she went upstairs to the bedroom, she checked to see if Robert was asleep. Seeing that he was, she tip-toed out of the room and into the room which had all of her belongings. She had only took the essential things. First she gathered all of her novels, her frames, photos, albums, and gifts. Then she dragged out of her suitcase and started packing most of her clothes. It had taken nearly three hours for her to get everything ready. Afterward she crept back into the bedroom and crawled in beside Robert. The next day when he went to work, thinking she wouldn't dare leave him, she retrieved all of her valuables and load them up into her luggage. She had asked the neighbor a few blocks away to drive her to the car place because she was "going on vacation to see her sick mother". When the neighbor was kind enough to do so, Natalie immediately paid for a silver Mitsubishi with the money her parents had put in her savings account and drove off. She had no idea why she was doing this. She knew it was a terrible idea because she had a feeling Robert would come looking for her, but she had to leave him. He was getting out of control. She didn't have any regrets whatsoever.
She realized she had to go back to the place she knew best. It was the only place she felt safe in. Besides, there was no other place for her to go. Connecticut was basically calling for her to come back home. But she didn't think she would remember James' address to the point where he was the first person she went to.

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About 2 months from now my sister will be having a baby shower. My sister and I are best friends but I truly suck at giving gifts. A good friend of hers asked me advice on what to get her/the baby that she'll love. I told her anything with his name on it. It didn't matter what because my sister loves personalized stuff.

So heres my situation, I was going to make a basket of stuff she'll need. Everyone I've told said it's a great idea. The other day i bumped into my grandmother who keeps buying my sister little hangers, books, clothes, bottles etc. Basically any and everything I would have put in the basket, so when I told her my gift idea she didn't sound too impressed. So I thought i'd make it a little more personal and design a picture that I'd put in a frame of the baby's name. But would that be taking away from my sister's friend? Kinda of like copying her or taking her shine? Should I scrap my idea all together or just continue with it?

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I asked this question yesterday, but everyone said it was all my familys fault. I added some details and would like some more advice.

It all started when my grandmother died a year ago. She had an old, legal will done at a lawyers office, and a new will that was hand-written by two of her 9 children and never signed by my grandmother. My grandmother raised me and two of my brothers as well as her own children. When she died, her children tried to push the new will through, however since there was a legal will, the new one was thrown out and the old one was used. The problem is, one of my brothers was purposely left out of the new will (the one that was thrown out), even though all the rest of us were included. The reason he was left out is that he has a fantastic job, a loving wife and children, owns a very nice house and a lot of land, take frequent vacations, etc. His wife's family has a lot of money so even though he has three kids in college he is still doing very well. The rest of us all struggle to get by.

Since the old will was the one that was legal, my brother DID get his share. However, since all this happened he will no longer speak to any of us or have contact with any of us. I know some things were said that have gotten back to him that really upset him, however it is true that he really didn't need that money and the rest of us do. He used to pay for all the food for holiday get-togethers and rent a place to have them but now he won't even return our calls when we try to include him, he also used to help pay for clothes for our kids and buy them nice gifts for their birthdays and no longer does that, either. He has not talked to any of us for months now even though we try to contact him a few times a week. I don't understand why he is so upset that he would stop communicating completely.

I should add that we are not talking about a huge inheritance here. My Grandmother did not have much, and divided us, there really isn't much to go around. How can we get him to understand that he was only left out because he doesn't need anything? I will admit that some of the aunts and uncles may be jealous of him, but I would like to have him back in our lives.

I have tried to email his wife countless times. Ih ave left messages on his cell phone and his home answering machine. His wife used to be a good friend, but now neither one of them will talk to me AT ALL. I had no part of having them taken out of the new will but I am a single Mom and can barely pay my bills. His kids are all going to very good colleges and have always had the best of everything and I'm not even sure mine will be able to go to any college at all. It wasn't about trying to make him an outcast or make him feel that he wasn't important to my Grandma, it was just that everyone else really can use that money and his family does not need it! I think what made it worse, was that some of my aunts and uncles tried to sneak away some of the personal possessions that he was supposed to get as well, but they did have to return them. He got everything he was supposed to get, but now it's like he is too good to even speak to anyone!
I understand why he is upset, but it was only two people responsible for writing the new will, and he won't talk to ANY OF US!

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appearance in court. Yes I am the custodian parent. I allowed him to keep our son for the summer but he never bought him back therefore there was not a real discussion however he has not been fair in allowing me to see our son therefore I have called his home and his mothers home stating his unfairness of not seeing my son. I didn't want it to land in court

My sons dad is severely behind on child support The child support was enforced by the state I didn't enforce it because It mattered but I wasn't going allow it to bother me one way or another if he gave money or not because I had him and if he didn't meet his financial responsibility that was on him not me but I knew I needed to the best I could with or without his money Now that the state is taking his money for the past two years or so it he has given me a hard time about the child support he wanted me to stop taking payments and work out a deal however I spoke with a few people and they adviced to not do it because of his past behavior they had also witnessed over the years.

Yearly he would ask that I give him money from the tax return this year I did he said he wanted to open a college fund for my son. I gave him money for our son. Yes I did keep a copy this was like a week before he picked him up for summer vacation and a few weeks later I also gave him more money and purchased clothing for my son that he never recieved as well as other school clothing and items however when I did see my son to give him his clothes he had gained and enormous amount of weight and he know longer can fit the clothes in the childrens department since he has had him.

His dad started giving me more problems as well as my husband, Especially after I and him have become married to different people. I wanted for us to be civil not be in court because he had big problems and I did allow him to see his son regardless when ever he wanted which was weekly. I did state to his mother this month I was planning to open a checking account for my sons dad to receive funds for him because he was not living with me anymore, yet I was also considering doing other things because he is not allowing me to see my son and allowing my son to make decisions, I find to be questionable of his dad parenting skills.

I don't think its good parental skills to allow a child at a young age to not see his mother, because he wants to spend time with a cousin he didn't have a relationship with for nine and half years, who lived in another state. Once my son told me he couldn't come over because his dad wanted him to clean his room, another time was my sons dad said my son didn't want to spend the weekend afterwards my son said he did, so we called his dad and so and so but he didn't show. For christmas my sons dad purchased him a gift and he bought it to my house, however it was the new year and normaly he and my other children spend the new year at their grandmothers house, so again thats what they did, but the gift my son had was still in this large box that was torn and my son was afraid to leave the box, because his dad had stated bring the box and the toy back, therefore we had to travel with the box falling apart on public transportation.

I stopped him from having any relationship with my other child because of his attitude and because my other child has disabilities and he talks to my other son, downwardly like my other son and I am the blame for his disabilities
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This is a long dram of his dad being incosiderate, I have a lot of stories I could tell about his behavior but who wants to read that much more. I even have one documented My question what can I do and what should I expect. I am discussed now, I can understand why some men when involved with some women leave and only pay child support, becacuse every few months they have a issue. I never considered the other side of the story but now that I am on the other foot I can really understand. Maybe I don't understand because I didn't have the parental support I give to my children, therefore I can't understand someone elses dilemas who didn't have it either growing up. when the child is being loved fed and clothe what more could a person ask for? Why all the drama?

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Why is it the generation who tried their parents the most are totally out of touch with young people? Seems they have forgotten what being young is about. They are (some, not all) complainers, winers and totally against anything for young people. complain about noise when they had more music noise than anyone, about clothes, about everything they did they doin't want anyone else to experience. that is...FUN

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ok, im married to the 3 rd of 4 brothers and my husband's brother's wife has always given me the stink eye. she did when my husband and i first started dating and when she found out i was pregnant, she was furious. she told my mother in law that she wanted to be the first.i let that slide off of my shoulders and continued to be gracious to her. you see, she has been in the family longer then i have, by a few years, but what does that matter? i cant help it that i got the brother who wanted kids at that present time! didnt know i had to wait for her?!so then my hubby and i were engaged, my ring was his great grandmother's ring( that means its her hubby's g-grandma's ring too) and she was upset about that as well!her husband bought hers!!! mine didnt have the $ and his mom offered it to him to give to me. she had her ring already! so after that, my husband and i had a small wedding and she never spoke a word to me.just about how they bought some of the food for the reception as a gift. anyhoo..a few months after my husband and i got married. she and my bro in law did.I said, congratulations at her reception and she said, "yea, atleast you didnt have to wait." what???i just walked away. About 6 mo later, she got pregnant. and when she found out it was a girl, she cried all day. she was so unhappy. she was upset that i had the first boy. now, she is being a little nasty to our mother in law whom dotes on my son so much. she loves my kid, its her grandson! she says that she is hurt that my mother in law is always catering to my son and that she better not leave her daughter out.i mean...what the heck is this girl's deal? why is she so nasty to me? she doesnt even know me! she is very stuck up and doesnt like to wear used clothes,had to have the best friends that were popular, is a perfectionist...but she comes from white trash! her mom is a fat troll looking lady who smokes, drinks, talks cruedly, and she came from the trailor park!not that thats bad, but she acts as if she came from the perfect family with a lovely mom. my sister in law has a beautiful house and a nice car, and she acts like she is something special...who cares!she acts like she is better than me and everyone else. what can i do? i want to talk to her or write her a letter so badly and tell hr how rediculious she is, but im scared that will cause drama.i have always been gracious to her and i try to dote on her baby when shes around, but she doesnt even offer me to hold her and she doesnt say anything to my son.she isnt mean to him, but isnt at all friendly towards us.
the letter wouldnt be negative, just stern..like, "if you have a problem with me or my son, then you need to tell me how you feel, dont judge me behind my back...yada yada."
yes! i have aksed her to hang out and have included her in many things that have to do with our husband's parents. she is doing the same thing to our mother in law!she had the baby in october and never comes by to visit or let the grandma get close to her new grand daughter.she was holding grudges against my mother in law for something stupid. i hav etried to get close to her and i always say, Look son, its your cousin!" and she never says, "lets get a picture with them together" or i cant wait until they get toplay together." sh eisnt trying to be family with me or my son:(

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so my dad is 50 years old this week and i still have no idea what to get him as a gift

he works on the highway and he's a manly guy he doesnt need clothes or anything like that he doesnt need any technology or new tools,
he does love fishing though but i wouldnt know what to get him that would be cool for fishing,
i was thinking of getting him a carhart jacket since he works on the highway when its snowing and that would keep him very very warm but im not sure if he can wear it at his job

someone pluheassseee gimme some ideas =]
thanks ssoooo much