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I'm 21 years old and I am gay....I have been talking to an older gentleman online who is 50 years old. We've also talked on the phone (non-sexual conversation). He just sent me a message saying that he will be driving through my area tomorrow AM and wanted to know if I would be willing to get together with him for a drink or lunch. Here's what he said:
hey Gerry,
i'm going to syracuse saturday am, driving through your area to & from, just wondering if you wanted to get together for a drink, lunch, ect.?, let me know, take care, greg
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I have been sitting in from my computer for about half hour trying to respond. I don't want to sound rude because he has somewhat of an idea where I live and stuff like that, so I need to be polite. Below is an e-mail that I have started to write. Can someone please help me edit this so that it sounds better? Basically, he's 50, and I’m 21. He's old enough to be my father. He told me that he wouldn't mind having a serious descreet relationship with me, however I am very uncomfortable with the age difference.
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Good Evening Greg,

Thanks for your message.

Right now I feel it is important for me to be honest with you about my feelings.

I am a little uncomfortable with our age differences (that's not to say that I don't want to speak to you ever again, because I am not saying that at all).

Honestly, you sound like a very nice guy and I really enjoyed speaking to you over the phone.

It's amazing how much we could talk about over the phone in the the two or three hours that we talked.

I would not, by any means have any objection to speaking with you through phone & email under conditional circumstances.

Best Regards,
- Gerry
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In my last paragraph when I said "conditional circumstances", I am not sure what the heck that means in reality, but in my message it is supposed to mean that I don't want to engage into any sexual conversations or physical sexual activity just yet.

After a while of talking I believe that I will be more comfortable and relaxed if I had to meet you in person.
I'm hesitant to say anything. He knows what I drive but I lied about the color of my car after I realized how close he is to me. Just the other day we were in the same town at the exact same time. I found this out later after we got back on the internet. He sounds like a very nice guy. I can tell by his voice he isn't a creep. He even told me if I wanted to keep things over the phone he would be fine with that. I'm hesitant to say anything because he might take it the wrong way. He did admit that he is in to younger guys like myself.

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okay so this is how my vday went yesterday.
ive been with this guy for 2yrs.
i decided i would cook for him for vday. because he always says i never cook for him. i got one of his fav recipes. and bought everything for it. today i made it. and i made it for my fam too.
he was at work all day. i was waiting for him.
i saved the food. i put on a nice red dress i bought just for him.
i wanted to blow him away since its our last v-day.
my mom curled my hair. i did my makeup real nice.
i set up a romantic place to eat dinner.
he told me he was going to take me out. but i figured we could go for dessert. i also bought him candy and a card.
i put candles at our table.
i just wanted to show him how much i loved him.
my lil brothers made fun of me.
my mother was making everything overboard and made me feel cheesy. candy hearts on the table. lol
my grandmother. kept asking me when hes coming.
i cant call because his fones off.
i call his uncles fone. he says he will be here at 9.
so i finish gettn ready.
i wait and wait and wait. hes not there. its almost 11'oclock.
my mother calls me and asks if im okay.
i felt like breaking down crying. because i felt like he wasnt going to show up. and i did all this for nothing.
he shows up after im crying.
i give him back his ring that he gave me.
he follows me. i slap him. crying. tell him to leave me alone.
he tells me hes late bcuz his car blew up. someone put sugar in his gas tank and the cops came and he had to fill out a report. and had to ask his brother to borrow the car.
he tells me i look beautiful.
&& he sees everything i was gonna do. he starts crying.
gets on his knees and asks me to forgive him.
im too pissed and nothing can make me happy now.
i got ready to go nowhere. and on top of all that. he didnt even bring me anything. he tells me its because he couldnt stop because he figured gettn here was more important.
im just sad bcuz i planned all this like this week.
and he was gonna get me a last min present.
and weve been together for 2yrs.
i just finally told him to leave after all the crying and begging.
told him that he ruined my vday.
and that theres nothing he can do to make it better.
and cryings just making it worse.
and i just wanted to be alone.
i threw my gift at him.
told him to leave.
and he told me as he was crying that hes gonna make it up to me tomoro.
i just feel so used. so stupid.

so he called me today crying. telling me he fucked up yesterday. and hes soo sorry and he feels like shit. and he's coming to see me. i told him not to come. and started telling him i didnt want to be with him. and that im leaving soon for the army in 4wks. and its best to end it now. and i dont need him. and hes always doing things like this. he always has an excuse or messing up. i told him i just dont think he should call, talk, see me for awhile. he started bawling. begging me to give him another chance. saying he can fix it. and he cant live without me. and wouldnt stop crying. so i hung up. i didnt know what to do. im just so full of anger. i still love him sort of. i just dont seeing us going anywhere. hes my bestfriend and all i have. but i have to move on. this isnt the first time hes done something like this. and this isnt the first time hes cried and begged me to stay with him. ive almost broken up with him twice. but i always gave in and took him back because he started crying.
and he just texted me saying he loves me. and to please answer. because he cant live without me,
i dont really know what to do at this point. he doesnt stop. i dont know he to make this end.

hes 19 and im 18 by the way.

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I have been talking to this Guy for 5months & I assume he really likes me because of the way he talks to me. He always says “Thinking about you baby” & missing you baby & we usual send Emails to each. I was always there to support him when he was over in Iraq. I have always tried to be a Good friend since he was in the army, I just saw it as a “friendship.” but he then asked me out on a date and I said yes but things have changed now since Im going overseas my grandmother is ill. I told him that I was going he was upset about it since we were both waiting to see each other. He also knows that I have many guy friends that wanted to date me too. & I think he got jealous since the other night he got really “Drunk and he wouldn’t stop texting me these messages saying
(“were are you baby”) but his in a different state right now visiting his Mom. & he would not stop sending me theses text message it was 1:am and I got sick of it so I

“CALLED HIM UP” asking him what was wrong? With him. He just said that he wanted to see what I was up too.& what I was doing and if I was single? And if I was “married” he said he wanted someone to love him and woman to chase after him. and he said why don’t you want to see me any more do you have a Boyfriend are you married and I said No. but he was too “Drunk to understand” what I was saying and he was really messed up, however the Next day I called him up because I was concerned about him and we worked everything out. and he was sorry Then a few hours later he sent me a Text Message saying “Missing you baby” and I Just want to say I can’t wait to see you. that’s what he said and from then on he usual sends me text messages asking me how I am but when I reply back he wont answers so Im cool with that but today was his birthday so I sent him this really cute poem this what I said: Side by side or miles apart Im thinking of You, God gave a gift to the world when you were born right now, on your Birthday day I wish You a very joyful day Should you want someone to rely on; I'll always be here for you. I wish you the happiest of birthdays, because you mean so much to me, happy birthday sweetie. May each new birthday be the best one ever, thinking of you on this Very Special day From Victoria xox but he did not reply. Im cool with that too But I just don’t understand what’s happing anymore does he like me or should I just forget him Im so confused about everything and I have be so honest with him and I just feel like crap please help me because Im so miserable, I like him But I just don’t understand what he wants anymore and why he does this and were both 21

And Sorry for writing a lot and for My bad spelling I really Need help I just cant work this out

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Lets say they start at 25 & work for 25 years and they retire at 50.

If they live to be 90 they will get 65 years pay for 25 years work.

How can cities afford that?

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I read some blog post where the blogger claimed that the Dow will sink to 6,000 when baby boomers take money out of retirement accounts. Even if the removal of money from these accounts stimulates spending, can the stock market sustain high levels without the support of all those retirement accounts?
Even if the money isn't being taken out all at once, that would mean a gradual decline of the market? Most funds don't beat the S&P average (11%), so we can't assume interest will last forever and we shouldn't assume that the following generations (a smaller population) would keep the same amount of money in retirement accounts.

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Does anyone else ever feel like Baby Boomers in general lost their way at some point & are now preparing to simply dump this old and abused rent-a-wreck onto the laps of future generations? I don't want to engage in the blaming game, it's a real waste to direct precious energy towards the past. It's just that sometimes, when aiming those energies towards the future & seeking solutions for this legion of selfishly-spawned calamity, I see nothing but hopelessness. All the new & improved this, disposable that, divorce-crazy, lawsuit happy, everything & everyone is for sale, & the "as long as I'm ok" mentality has left a tornado’s path of wreckage that upon witnessing, makes it hard not to wonder. It seems an irresponsible mess. I know they can't all be terribly lost & hopeless. What the F were they thinking in order to have participated in or allowed so much moronic sh*t to happen? I know that ultimately we're all just people & hence exceptionally small & fallible, but come on!

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Why do our youth not understand the difference between the Baby Boomers & the Viet Nam era?
The children of today seem to think so differently of the baby boomers compared to the Viet nam war tree huggers.
I am 62, we were baby boomers, but I was born after WW2, my brothers were born during the war and after the war. They are real boomers. The stupid new era hit during the Viet nam war, I just got out of H.S. and married when all these wierd liberal tree hugging peeps started drugs and no war crap. Then they raised kids who became teachers and now teach my grand children liberal views.

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