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Just moved out from the "Nest" at 28...I have been caring for my parents for the last 10 years and I finally jumped ship the other day...I am not feeling apprehension about the situation concerning myself...I know I am ready, I have been ready... but rather I am more concerned with how my mom is taking it all...Both my parents are separated, but they still keep in touch and have a friendly relationship....Our extended family is 3,000 miles across the country and so getting much help from them is not much an option....My mother has had 5 adult children for 7 years now. My younger brother & sister both moved out before I did at ages 23 & 24, as also did my 2 older brothers who both moved out at 18. I lagged behind due to my own medical condition, & countless doctor visits I needed and still need, but I can do for myself now...
Mom has already gone through so much depression & anxiety about other life situations she is going through pushing at age 50. She had a heart attack February 2008, and she is dealing with helping my father who has prostate cancer at age 62. Mom has been to the psychatrist this past year concerning her mental health and that kept me home a little longer doing my teaching job, and while I attended University earning my B.S degree. I am only a few weeks from graduation, and mom is happy about that, but she is still mentally unstable, I am worried that I might be making her mental state worse off than it already is by leaving her in the mental state she is in.

Question: I. What did you all do when you moved out to help your parents to deal with you moving out...II. What age were you when you did move out, and III. How did you parents handle your moving, ie, are they still upset, did they go back to school, vacation more often, move out of state etc...Thanks

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I have two teenage children 16,18 Boy & Girl, My sister who also has an 18 yrold son has to continually make remarks over the years on How her child dosent have to wear brand names to be somebody. My daughter 16 does choose to wear mostly name brands my son could care less. We dont buy our kids alot of clothes just as gifts at christmas and birthday's and they have 2 grandmothers who spoil them with most of their clothes. I dont ever judge my sister on the rearing of her son but she seems to always have something to say about the job I'm doing. My kids are good kids they stay out of trouble and do well in school and sports. I never hear anything about that. she is driving me insane. We don't live close..thank God, But I am finding myself avoiding calling her and visiting. She never really talks to me she just give's me constant advice in every area of my life. I never ask for it nor do I need it but she seems to think she's knows best and gets upset with me if I don't follow her ways...AGHHHHHH Anyone know whats up her @#$%^

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My sister and I are a year in half apart (I'm 18 and she's 20) and were best friends up until we turned 9 & 10. That's when my parents started fighting again and we silently took sides ( I wanted them to divorce; she didn't). It drove a small wedge between us and we were constantly criticized by our parents and grandmother for not wanting to be around each other as much. Then when we became teens, we drifted even more due to separate friendships, hobbies, personalities, etc.

We are both intelligent but I did better in academics so I was placed in the gifted program, Beta club, got principal's list, and what not so I began to really shine more educationally. This was, however, the straw that broke the camel's back. My father (more than my mom because she didn't want either of us to feel inferior to the other) praised me for doing well academically and even told me I was the smartest of my three siblings. At first it made me feel good but then extremely bad and guilty and pressured to stay that way. I felt bad he didn't tell my sister that but at the same time, my sister was the one everyone said was the prettiest and the most outgoing and likeable so I felt it was my own compensation for not being the favorite, pretty daughter. I was smart. She was pretty and a cheerleader. We kept our place in our household and excelled in them. And if we did something to try and break free of our "roles", whether they were good (me hanging out with friends or her getting an A) or bad (me getting a C or her hanging out late at night ) my father would swiftly make comment of our changing ways, inevitably putting us back in our place.

Eventually we didn't really talk anymore and if we did, it was five minutes of bickering. I thought she was stuck up, selfish, too talkative and superficial. She thought I was lame, ugly, too shy, a bookworm, and unlikable. We were and are night and day.

I worry that our relationship as sisters will never be ammended especially after a recent conversation between my father, myself, and my sister. He made note of all my previous academic accomplishments and how I've had to struggle more for my goals than her, basically belittling her and her accomplishments. I stuck up for her and praised her accomplishments but she just condescended me in the end like always. I know she does it because she feels bad about herself when my dad talks to her about her life but he's done and does the exact same thing with me by making me feel bad for not having a lot of friends or being pretty like her or being liked by everyone. He even told her he was so proud to have her as a daughter. He's never told me that, just that he was proud of my accomplishments.

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Ty for reading my question. First let me give you some background information about me, my husband and our family.
Husband:
*Enlisted Active Duty for 16 years
*Re-enlisting for his last 4 years at the end of the month
*Bachelors Degree Exercise Science
*PT Coordinator for his command.
*Dreams of having a business after he retires.
Me:
*VERY proud military spouse for 10 years
* Associates Degree Culinary Arts
*Bachelors Degree Exercise Science,
*Bachelors Degree Dietetics (Human Nutrition),
*Registered Dietitian
*Completing 3rd Bachelors Degree Business & Marketing.
*Dream of starting a business after my spouse retires.

Child # 1
*Son
*Special Needs (Very Mild Autism)
*Age 7 1/2
*First Born-Biological child
*Requires Therapy 4 days a week (ABA, SPEECH & OT)
*In the Gifted Program at school
*Doing really well

Child # 2
*Son
*No special needs
*Age 6 1/2
*Adopted 1 year ago-foster care
*In Gifted Program at school
*Doing really well

Child # 3
*Son
*No special needs
*Age 5 1/2
*Adopted 1 year ago-foster care
*Bio sibling of Child # 2
*In Gifted Program at school
*Doing very well

Child # 4
*Daughter
*Currently 21 weeks & on very strict bed rest
*Miracle baby. Doctor said I couldn't have anymore bio children
*Last pregnancy & last child. I'm done!

Now that you know my family dynamics, I need to explain why I'm asking my question. Over the last couple of years I've inherited a lot of money & real estate from both sides of my family (Great-Grandparents). All of the property is currently leased or rented out.

It's been our dream for years to have a health related business. Me and my husband talk about starting a consulting business after he retires. We want our children to have more then what we had growing up. We were raised by hard working single mothers. Our commitment to our marriage and to our children will always come first. It is the most important thing in our lives. We are a Chrisitan family.

One of the houses that I own is an a very upper middle class neighborhood that is surrounded by affluence and influence. I've checked out the education system, and it's one of the best in the nation. There is a strong economic influence, and it keeps getting better. The house is located closer to my mother than to my husband's family. My husband's family is not happy about us retiring closer to my mom. They want us to move back to his little town, and live there with no prospects of flourishing. My husband has told them that we are going to do what is best for OUR family IE: Me & our children. This makes them very resentful. There is so much potential for our business idea to do very well.

My mil and husband's sister are very important to my husband. He loves them very much, but they don't seem to understand that this is what is best for OUR family. They may like living his hometown, but he does not. His hometown is rural, has very few jobs, and it's in the state of Ohio. Neither one of us like the cold or snow. We have the chance to move to a place that we can do very well. My mom & grandmother will be coming to join us once my mother retires from her civil service job. We've offered to move his mom and sister from Ohio to where we plan to retire to, and buy a really small house for them to live in. All they would have to pay for would be the property taxes & utilities. But they still continue to whine & argue about how unfair we're being to them.

Honestly I'm at my wits end with my in-laws. Now that you know the story, what would you choose to do? We've made the offer, and they've refused. I need some advice on this please.
Oh they have said they want money from me, because I am 'rich' now. We don't financially support either of my in-laws. I'm in the process of deciding what to do with my inheritance & property. We're not giving to their demands. We are moving to TX, and they can either stay in OH or move to TX on their own dime.

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Designing a business concept to serve the boomer population, initially focused on those boomers born in late 40s/early 50s. Am trying to associate the "look & feel" of the product with imagery that resonates with the target audience. If you were born in this period, do you identify more with 50s or 60s americana? What are some of the brands, products, celebrities from that era you still identify with most strongly?

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I'm 17. Last weekend, my dad & step mom went out to somewhere on their motorcycle. They come home at 1am. My step mom was drunk (she didn't drive, my dad did). She starts yelling and screaming "Omg! I don't care what people think of me! I don't care what anyone thinks! I just don't care! I am just SO sick of it!!!" like a total and utter drama queen.

Is it normal for a woman almost 50 years old to act like that?

I'm a teenager so I wouldn't know.
also this is the suggested category so yeah...
they've been married for one year

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I'm curious about the disco era and would like to hear about it from you wise souls of R&P that were teens/20's during that time period.

Was it a fad that few got into? What did people in general think about it? What did *you* think about it? Was the radio flooded with only disco, or was it rarely played?

Any information you want to give would be appreciated, I'm looking forward to your answers!

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This may be the weirdest question ever asked by me, but my heart is sad & I am lonely &I feel so isolated & don't know where2 turn. So I'll take suggestions from people who have been here & done that. I am 56, a recently retired elem teacher & was a single parent from 1985-1997. So I was so busy I thought when the kids left the nest I would B content. I am miserable. I have no family, no friends, they were all at school & my kids have flown the coop very far& emotionally 2. I am a very outgoing person & love people, but I've never really had 2 make friends because I was always involved in soccer mom & in school extremely involved in extracurriculur activity. I am stuck & feel like the whole world hates me, but it is just because I don't belong 2anyone or place anymore. 1 contingency is that I have a strong leader personality & when I join groups, like my intuitive daughter says, I am a leader not a follower. I also have CFIDS so have about 1/2 power and little money.voluteer no
CFIDS means one has very very little energy . I can't even drive 30 miles to our next door neighbor big town and when one doesn't have money, they can't travel.