My Boomer Tips

My Boomer Tips

Ty for reading my question. First let me give you some background information about me, my husband and our family.
Husband:
*Enlisted Active Duty for 16 years
*Re-enlisting for his last 4 years at the end of the month
*Bachelors Degree Exercise Science
*PT Coordinator for his command.
*Dreams of having a business after he retires.
Me:
*VERY proud military spouse for 10 years
* Associates Degree Culinary Arts
*Bachelors Degree Exercise Science,
*Bachelors Degree Dietetics (Human Nutrition),
*Registered Dietitian
*Completing 3rd Bachelors Degree Business & Marketing.
*Dream of starting a business after my spouse retires.

Child # 1
*Son
*Special Needs (Very Mild Autism)
*Age 7 1/2
*First Born-Biological child
*Requires Therapy 4 days a week (ABA, SPEECH & OT)
*In the Gifted Program at school
*Doing really well

Child # 2
*Son
*No special needs
*Age 6 1/2
*Adopted 1 year ago-foster care
*In Gifted Program at school
*Doing really well

Child # 3
*Son
*No special needs
*Age 5 1/2
*Adopted 1 year ago-foster care
*Bio sibling of Child # 2
*In Gifted Program at school
*Doing very well

Child # 4
*Daughter
*Currently 21 weeks & on very strict bed rest
*Miracle baby. Doctor said I couldn't have anymore bio children
*Last pregnancy & last child. I'm done!

Now that you know my family dynamics, I need to explain why I'm asking my question. Over the last couple of years I've inherited a lot of money & real estate from both sides of my family (Great-Grandparents). All of the property is currently leased or rented out.

It's been our dream for years to have a health related business. Me and my husband talk about starting a consulting business after he retires. We want our children to have more then what we had growing up. We were raised by hard working single mothers. Our commitment to our marriage and to our children will always come first. It is the most important thing in our lives. We are a Chrisitan family.

One of the houses that I own is an a very upper middle class neighborhood that is surrounded by affluence and influence. I've checked out the education system, and it's one of the best in the nation. There is a strong economic influence, and it keeps getting better. The house is located closer to my mother than to my husband's family. My husband's family is not happy about us retiring closer to my mom. They want us to move back to his little town, and live there with no prospects of flourishing. My husband has told them that we are going to do what is best for OUR family IE: Me & our children. This makes them very resentful. There is so much potential for our business idea to do very well.

My mil and husband's sister are very important to my husband. He loves them very much, but they don't seem to understand that this is what is best for OUR family. They may like living his hometown, but he does not. His hometown is rural, has very few jobs, and it's in the state of Ohio. Neither one of us like the cold or snow. We have the chance to move to a place that we can do very well. My mom & grandmother will be coming to join us once my mother retires from her civil service job. We've offered to move his mom and sister from Ohio to where we plan to retire to, and buy a really small house for them to live in. All they would have to pay for would be the property taxes & utilities. But they still continue to whine & argue about how unfair we're being to them.

Honestly I'm at my wits end with my in-laws. Now that you know the story, what would you choose to do? We've made the offer, and they've refused. I need some advice on this please.
Oh they have said they want money from me, because I am 'rich' now. We don't financially support either of my in-laws. I'm in the process of deciding what to do with my inheritance & property. We're not giving to their demands. We are moving to TX, and they can either stay in OH or move to TX on their own dime.