My Son has a 5 year old son,who's mother will not let us see him,unless we take her older son!?
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My son is 28 his son is 5,the mother of the child is 30+,she has a child a bit older than my grandson...my son has had some drug and drinking issue's,so has the mother"prescribed drugs",however she say's she's over her issue's,they have never been a real couple,I didn't meet her until she was expecting my grandson...they have had an on again off again thing..the last 6 years! when they are on they are fighting...it seems at some point my son & the girl decided to have her older son start calling my son dad,..the point is if i see my grandson, she expects me to see her other child...if i do for mine I'm expected to do for both..they are not living together and have never for very long,yet they do,go back & forth,saying they are together..she is very quick to belittle my son,therefore other than my grandson,I don't care if I ever see her,she calls my son a mommas boy,because he wants me to have a part in his and his son's life..she says rude and hurtful things because I feel i should be allowed to love and visit my grandson without taking her older child! He is a precious child,but he's not mine..and she hate's my son's family and sadly him most of the time..she don't cuss and yell at me much,but put's my son through a living hell I want to do what is best,but she makes it hard..EXAMPLE:my son had drawn names at thanksgiving for christmas with her family...christmas eve (after he'd gotten the gift for her family) she called to say they'd decided not to get gifts,and she didn't ask him to the family christmas..however the next day she showed up for our family christmas "because the only way we can see our son,nephew,grandson,cousin,ect..) is if she comes..my son's son wanted to know why he didn't show up,and stated that his other grandmother had gotten him a gift! It's so sad! What should I do?
gina,I very often do think about the other end of the issue,I was most concerned about my son and his son,but since you brought it up,she would not allow my grandson to come to christmas with us until,he'd gone with his older brother to his dad's house...( she has told
Just be kind to the both of the boys since their parents are so dysfunctional. They both need all the love they can get. Besides, the younger son, your grandson, will begin to wonder why his brother is not included in the visits. Who knows, maybe if you are kind to the older son, his mother will start to be a little nicer, though I wouldn’t hold my breath.
Wow the title sounds like a riddle!
consult a lawyer
try and work something out with her. have a talk about the actual issue, leave everything else out. you sound a little too involved and too worried about what she is or isn’t doing. also talk to your son, he is your grandsons father- just don’t attack her or else you are sure to lose your battle.
It sounds like a very sad situation, not only for your son but more importantly your grandson!
The only thing I can think of is to speak to as many people as possible to get yourself and your son ( if they are not already in place) to get access rights to your grandson. If your son had access rights eg every second weekend, it doesn’t sound like it would as much an issue because you could see both of them on their own without her influence.
If that is not an option, consider making the best of both of the boys, its not the older one’s fault that he has a ***** of a mum, try to get to know him better so you can develop the bond with the boys!
This is a very sad situation because any of the kids have to go through this. I know it’s kind of hard, but, Are you sure this is your grandson? I think you need to talk to a social worker, but, you don’t know what’s gonna happen with those kids if the family services visit their house and find drugs or something like that. The grandparent’s rights to see their grandchildren vary, it depends on the sate you are living. Try to google your state’s law and talk to a social worker about this situation. What I think is that for now you are gonna have to get use to the situation, keep visiting your grandson every now and then. If you are a good grandma’ and you teach him good when he grows up he will be the one visiting you every day without his mom telling him what to do
Nowhere up there you mentioned that she’s an unfit mother, which tells me that your grandson’s is well taken care of by his mother. Also, your son sounds like he is a lousy father with his drug and drinking problem. You should be thankful that your grandson has a good mother and she seems to me to be making good decisions, she doesn’t want her other son to feel left out.I APPLAUD HER DEMANDS and you should respect it instead of whining about every little thing about her.