I'm 50 years old and no desire to live because I'm a failure. Does anyone else my age feel that way?
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My Boomer Tips
Although I was once successful, now I'm not working and running out of money. I am also all alone. I dread each day. I honestly cannot even remember what it feels like to be happy or content.
Depression is very treatable. When depression has lingered for so long that you cannot remember what it feels like to be content, it’s time for professional help. You CAN get your life back, and you will need to take that first step. That’s going to mean psychotherapy and quite possibly medication. The COMBINATION of the two haas the highest statistical likelihood of success.
In the meantime, there are some concrete behaviors and changes you can make to help yourself. The first is to make sure you’ve got some structure in your day. If you’re not working, go find a place in the community to volunteer.
The second is exercise. Exercise itself has documented positive effects on serotonin (one of the main neurotransmitters implicated in depression). You don’t need any fancy equipment. Just get up and get moving. Start with a walk around the block, and move up from there.
Get plugged in to a local church. You may be surprised at just how much profound meaning you will discover in spirituality at this stage in your life. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.
Finally, pick up a hobby. Perhaps something you enjoyed as a younger person, but haven’t touched in quite awhile.
Implement some (or preferably all) of the above suggestions, and you will be WELL on your way to taking your life BACK!
Good luck,
~Dr. B.~
If you are feeling so bad go to the doctors right away and tell him how you feel. Don’t do anything silly.
Clean up your act, dust your self off and start over, there is still a sense of satisfaction in choosing your own destiny. Now off the pity pot and use those years of experience to get back in the game.
I’m 39 and I feel that way.
But I have to go on. I have a child that depends on me and a husband that loves me.
I still feel like "this is is??? This is life??" So many disappointments. Just because I live with 2 people, I am still very much alone.
You may greatly benefit from psych meds, as I do. But just know that you are not alone. I just take things day by day. Thats all you can do.
I hope you can find some happiness in your life and get back on track.
You must not get depressed. Instead you must engage yourself in some work which you like. For example reading or cooking.
G
Yes. The down slide is scary.
It is entirely possible to build a whole new frame of reference and initiate new successes at 50. The first thing is to discard the self-based refence system and realize that life is a huge network. Use that network to win. Here’s how.
Create Self-Directed Victory
How I dug myself out of frustration.
By Generalist
After discarding all non-verifiable assumptions, I found that these few simple truths remained.
1-Everything is always changing. The time scales vary, but nothing is constant.
2-Causes produce effects. Sometimes this is not obvious and there is a choice about choosing to believe in gods who can suspend cause-effect, or sticking with the pragmatically observable.
3-Life is both physical and non-physical. The human body is just a bag of mostly water without the intangibles like life, hope, identity, consciousness.
4-I needed some way to organize these observations into a usable code.
At an SGI-USA meeting, I found out that the above points had been summarized as Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, in Japan, by the monk Nichiren in the 13th century.
I started to recite Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. It took some time to discard my cynicism, even when I got phenomenal results in my life. I later found that joining with others enhances the effectiveness and gets me a big source of potential friends. It’s one thing to be smart and frustrated; it is another to decide to try an extremely effective method of arranging the world to delete the need for frustration.
Source(s):
My own experiences as a result of reciting the formula and working with the SGI for peace, culture and happiness
http://www.sgi.org