Im 20 years old so why am i so turned on by a 50 year old? what is wrong with me?
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Theres this neighbor of mine who has a friend, and a lot of times when i go to this neighbors house on friday nights, a friend is there and i think im a little attracted to him. hes irish so hes got that awesome accent and hes funny and we have the same favorite tv show we love chatting about it. He is divorced though, since a few years ago, and hes 50 I think and Im 20. I feel bad because of the age but ive always liked much older guys and he looks younger, maybe like 45.
Anyways, it seems like maybe he is hitting on me because all the time I go there, hes always touchy feely with me, and he seems really happy im there, he doesnt waste anytime going up to me and puts his hands on my shoulders and arms, and compliments me saying "well look at this beautiful girl" and compliments my hair and things like that. at first i felt it was inappropriate and felt he was too touchy feely but then i realized that i like it and it felt good
And one time im passing under a street lamp near the house and as im walking under it he goes "can you just stand there under that light like that?"
and another time i am at work, and then hes there shopping and he sees me and he touches my shoulder like hes in shock and says "well look at you! dont you look beautiful"
and i felt awkward this one time watching tv with him since a male enhancement commercial came on and he went "those pills will make me the size of a black guy" and it felt really awkward haha
and i love it how when he leaves he says "bye darling" or "bye sweetie"
anyways, what should i do? is he flirting or just being nice?
also hes not there every friday so when i dont catch him im upset....so should i email him? i dont know if i can wait two weeks to see him. i know its a huge age difference, but i really cant help it
The thing is when he first put his arms around my shoulder it felt so good!! ive never felt that with any other guy that i liked before, its weird.
also, i want to do this, because ive been asked out a few times before but its always young guys like 20s or whatever, and i cant stand guys my age i like them older!!
by the way, i am neither desperate nor a gold digger. he is an average middle class working guy, and his maturity and certain things about him appeal to me, trust me guys around his age are 10 times more appealing to me then any guy around my age, and i really cannot help it as ive tried to like guys my own age.
im 20 and havent had a bf or a kiss or anything yet and its mostly from my shyness but not asking out guys because the ones i like are way older. so i think its time i do what i want right? i mean im not thinking its gonna end up in marriage but i like him and want to date someone i want for once! i want to see where things go..
we really hit it off, we like a lot of the same stuff like the same exact shows and stuff it was nice to find someone to relate to like this. now obviously he is much older than me with much more experience but i love older guys and feel im an old soul myself, obviously not as mature but im not a typical 20 year old girl, a lot whom just want to party or whatever, from my experience, just people my age dont interest me i cant relate
should i contact him? i have butterflies right now
2Woman,
From what you have described, go for it!!! You will not ony make your day but you will probably make his as well. Older men know things that younger men just haven’t had the experience to know yet. Older men take their time and do things right, they never get in a hurry and they make sure their partner has a good time as well. He may be older, but that means basically he has more experience. He will rock your world.
Hope this helped,
J
In all seriousness you are 20! No do not contact him. Are you sure you are REALLY attracted to these men or is there some issues in your past that maybe affect you in a while that you seek older man. I understand people your age might not interest you, but you’re 20 c’mon you can’t really say that you’ve experienced all there is. I’m sure there are people that feel the way you do about other 20 yr olds. Maybe you are just a little more mature than everyone else. By no means is that an excuse to date someone that old. I understand some people that others that are a little older but you are talking 30 yr difference here. That makes a difference I don’t care what anyone says. Yes you might have show and so in common, but there are A LOT of differences there…
Get a lifetime supply of extenze and then move into the playboy mansion!!heff will welcome u with open robes!!U sure like it wrinkly and limp..u go girl!!
Do what feels right to you! Age does not matter!
first thing to remember is your attraction is set at a young age on certain characteristics.
this you cannot change.
Society may frown on you goin out with someone that much older, and the other thing is if you do go out, can you handle people looking at him and callin him your father. also if it went well, and you had a kid, do you think he could handle a young kid in his 60s etc, and also you having to take care of him.
maybe you need him more as a father figure…. your dad wasnt affectionate or praising, and he does it, fills the void, and you want to see him for that.
if it is not, and you really think it is <3, then go for it, but just be aware of society’s disapproval, which can be tough for a shy person like you said you are…