I have had it with my mother in law
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My mother in law kicked my then boyfriend out of her house because he was to serious about me. (we weren't that serious mostly lust) He was 20 at the time.
He lived in his car when he ran out of money on motel rooms.
During that time one of my 3 roommates moved out.
He moved in. We fell in love and got married within a year.
She moved out of state the first year we were together. I met her during a visit she seemed nice and acted like she wanted to get to know me.Every visit or phone call or email was the same I cant wait to move back home an be a part of the family.
Since she moved back she is busy with something or another.She cried all the time ''I Just want my son to come home''.(She was a party goer all through his years as a kid. She was never home.He became a teen alcoholic. She says she would love to do it all over again to do it right. I told her please dont blame your self and she could make it up by being the best grandmother. (She has never held,kissed or gave our son a gift for any holiday. We been together going on 5 years. She has said recently as 6 months ago''I JUST WANT MY SON BACK!
She has nothing to do with our son but will make a big to do for her son.
Yesterday was our sons 3rd birthday and we heard nothing from her again. She never asks about him. We live in the same city. My husband wont say a thing to her about being a absent grandmother. I really think she needs to hear it from him.(He feels so sorry for her) I have asked her in many emails to be a part our sons life. She straight ignores my plea's.
After missing another bitrhday I want to give her a piece of my mind. I know it wont help but I feel so bad for my son missing out on he LOVE he deserves.What would you do? I seriously want to put a ad in the paper Grandmother wanted for sweet funny loving kid.
I am equally mad at my husband for ignoring the whole situation.
I guess her actual problem is you. She probably hates u and her grandson as well. She secretly believes that you are the reason for her present situation as u took her son away from her. I suggest u stop trying to call her into ur family immediately as she is only going to create more problems for u. Now U have only ur husband to tackle then u will her a MIL as well and believe u me MILs should be kept at a great distance. If she wants her son back let her do all the effort and u stay out of it. Mark my words dear and stay out of it. Your child does not need a grandmom. he has got all that he needs.
Actually what your son is missing out on is a grandmother who is controlling, lying, inconsiderate, ungratious, and a whole bunch more uns, I would not say one word to this woman, just be glad she has so little contact with your son. Your husband should be willing to take his mother to task when necessary. That is his parent and he has the relationship with her. For now leave it alone, and thank God that she is an absent grandparent. If she hurts you or your son physically or mentally that is the time for you to speak to her, firmly.
Not all grandparents are involved in their grandchildren’s lives. I can understand that you would like your child to have a loving relationship with her however seems like that isn’t going to happen. You should just forget about it and recognize that your child has other people in his life who love him. Why are you wasting your time begging her to spend time with her grandchild? If she doesn’t want to then consider it her loss. Your son has never experienced her love so therefore he cannot miss it.
Talk to your husband about having a real talk with her and all three of u sitting down and telling her that she is not the main foucus of her sons life anymore and if u really want to be apart of it we are a package deal! tell her how u feel about her disragarding ur son! hope everything blows over !
There is nothing that you can do about it. Some people are not good around children. she obviously could not even handle her own son. How in the world would she be able to handle a grandson. Her words are just those of a person that wants to save face. do not continue to concern yourself about it. you son will understand when he grows up. right now he has really never seen her to love her, so it is not a loss in his life. It is unfortunate, and I understand how you feel, but you need to know that your husband probably has bad feelings about her anyway. He may not really even want her in your lives. maybe he knows that she might try to do damage to the life you, he and your son have. Some people can cause more damage than good when they are around. Of course, you husband, being like most men, I am sure, does not really want to go into it. Men usually avoid talking about things that cause problems.
Why would you want your sweet, funny, loving and defenseless child to know a woman like the one you’ve just described? How can she love him when she did so badly with her own son? Forget about trying to manipulate that woman into someone that she so obviously is not. Focus instead on protecting your child so she doesn’t become another casualty of that woman’s inability to love or think of anyone but herself. As for your husband, leave the poor man alone. My God, if that’s what his mother was like, he’s got enough emotional baggage to shift through without your nagging added to it.
That a funny grand ma,anyway u cant force her to be with you all the time or to be committed in the family if she does not want,so just leave her alone coz u wont do any good by confronting her or trying to make sense in her,in another case just write a mail telling her how u feel,en maybe she can realize it.