How do I get over the pain of losing my grandmother? I feel so hurt…..?
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My grandmother was like a best friend to me.(she's 60)She started smoking crack and she stopped calling me. She stopped caring about me. So I gave up. I was over her.
She called my house sober.
We drove to her house (eight hours). When we went to see her; she wasn't there. She called the next day and said she's show up at the house we were staying in. She came in for 10 seconds,began to cry and scream about how her parents abandoned her,turned around,told us she had to go "pick something up"( we knew what she meant...crack),and left. I asked her not to go.She ran out of the house and screeched out of the drive way.
I never got to say goodbye,give her the gift I bought her,or that I loved her. She never told me she loved me after she pleaded for another chance. I loved her so much! My entire childhood was based around her..and she just crushed it my heart.
I know it could be worse...but I just can't seem to let her go.(even though she let me go)
What should I do?
I mean she begged for another chance and I opened up to her again and she crushed me. I love her so much,I feel like she died and I never got to go to the funeral.
I still love her and want her back,but its knowing I'll never have her back and I NEVER got to say goodbye or "i love you" one last time.
After she left My face just hit the table and I started crying. I've been crying..for about 2 weeks now.
GUYS she's not actually DEAD.
She's alive and dying through smoking crack and hurting everyone around her.
My advice to you is to let go and move on. As much as you love her, you can’t let her addiction bring you down with her. Let her know that you will be there for her if/when she cleans up. If not, tell her you will have to go on with just your memories of her because you can’t bear to see her living the way she has chosen. And then move on with your life.
It takes time to get over the death of a loved one, there is no cure. Only time will heal. I’m sorry for your loss.
wow, sorry you have to go through this loss and even more that you are dealing with this not saying goodbye. The only thing i can tell you is that no matter what your grandmother was going through, smoking crack or whatnot, she DID love you… when a person starts to use drugs they are not who they truly are, they become different people…so your grandma did love you and right now she still does know that you love her and care about her so much. You may not have been able to actually say goodbye to her but as long as in your heart you come to peace that you do love her and care and say goodbye in your own way and let go of that pain you carry. She knows you love her..
that is really sad =((! im so sorry, but i dont know how to help. Nobody in my family had died yet, well, not my grandparents and up. I would just say that maybe you just need to move on. I know it would probley be hard to forget about someone you love more than anything, but you have to just keep trying. All i have to say is dont run aways, or cut yourself EVER because your upset….just talk about it with a friend and get your feelings out, but never hurt yourself cause your upset over it, not that ur planning to or anything. Good Luck! I pray for your grandma!
My condolences
to you. You need grief counselling to help you through this.Wheneever a close person dies there is always a acertain amount of guilt.Why not try to write a letter and say all the things that you would have said to her and place it on her grave.?
you should just relax and ease your mind and settle your thoughts and think about the good times you had with her you will feel better and hope that she is in a better place because everyone wont live forever //// sorry about your grandma
wow. i have to say your story breaks my heart. i cant stand to hear of stuff like this. i really dont know what to say. i have never had that happen to me. all i really can say is that i hope it turns out ok. i wish the best of luck to you and everyone else that is going through this.
i dont want to hurt you feelings or anything but y would a 60 year old be doing crack?
you could talk to me anytime, my email is ktownkid1010@yahoo.com
This is hard. It’s hard to see any loved one on Crack but especially your grandmother. Crying is a good way to release your emotions but you have to see that she made the choice to take herself out of your life by doing what she is. You can’t take anything she says or said into context since most crack addicts don’t really know what they’re saying. Right now, all you can do is recall the happy times and as hard as it will be, let her go. She’s chosen this life and until it’s time for something to change then there’s nothing you can do. I’m sorry.
She did let you go and all of her that you knew for all practical purposes is dead. Why did she start doing this? Who opened her up to this? In reality it doesn’t matter much, the damage is done. You should know that she the woman you once knew did love you and care about you. Perhaps one great and valuable lesson you are learning from this is the danger, harm and power drugs have. By seeing her go through this and what it is putting you and your family through will help you in the future, by showing you why it’s so important not to do drugs. I mean even trying them can lead many people to become addicted. She will hit bottom one day and see what she has done, until then you should just act like she is dead. Remember her as she was before this and how she acted, that is who your grandmother is, she is not the same person who left your house upset and needing to "pick something up." I wish I could do more for you and help make things in your world better. I will pray that she sees what she’s doing and gets help for herself. Just watch out for her until she gets better. People on drugs do and say things they would never in a million years if they were sober. Let go of what she is now and remember happier times with her. Try to keep your head up and learn from her mistakes. I am willing to bet she would want you to see how much damage drugs can do to a family and now you have seen. Seeing this maybe the very thing that keeps you away from people who use drugs. I am really sorry.
OMG….I must be a crackhead to have even read this bulls***.