How can I be sure my fiance is a Sociopath?
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I have always wondered why my fiance acts the way he does and why he does the things that he does. We have been together for 5 years and lived together up until about 9 months ago. Then I moved out and I told him I was NOT moving back in until he marrys me. Well, just recently something compelled me to look up the behavior of a sociopath. I realized that my fiance has the same behavior and symptoms that fit that of a sociopath. I just recently found out he's been cheating on me off and on the entire time we have been together. ATLEAST 4 times that I know about for sure. He lies constantly. He lies to his mom. He is always secretive, insecure, finds ways directly and indirectly to put me, my friends and my family down. He lashes out and is quick to forgive like nothing ever happens. He is never willing to try anything new. He always wants to stay at home very rarely wants to go anywhere. When he is at fault he will NEVER admit to it. When he is caught in a lie and he knows it he gets mad and says he didn't do anything. OR he wants you to show him proof that he is doing something wrong before he will admit to doing anything wrong. He only says I love you when he wants to. IF he gets angry or upset about something he just stops saying I love you all together. He acts like nothing ever bothers him. I went through a miscarriage back in September and he didn't appear upset at all. He claimed he was upset that I lost our child BUT he never showed it. He makes empty promises constantly and never follows through. Over the years he would buy me gifts, tell me he loves me and send me e-cards online. BUT, I had a feeling after a while that it was out of a sense of guilt. BUT, supposedly sociopaths do NOT have any feelings of any kind. He said he wants to get married and have children with me. BUT, it never happened. He was married once before BUT it didnt last. He claims his ex wife cheated on him BUT she says that he was the one cheating. He has a history of hitting on other women and cheating in past relationships. He NEVER shows any remorse. He is loving when he wants to be. BUT, he can be very cold at times, unfeeling and uncaring. He will lie and cheat and be totally dishonest it's like it's a way of life for him. When he gets caught he gets angry and denies it and says its everyone elses fault he is the way he is. He was brought up by his grandparents even though his parents lived 5 minutes away. He claims he was brought up by his grandparents from age 7 till about 22 because his grandparents lived closer to the school he attended which was also close by. BUT his parents had to work all day so his grandparents preferred he lived with them. His grandmother put him down as a child told him he was fat and she hated his dark hair and kept trying to dye it blond. When he reached puberty and started getting a hairy body she hated that about him. His grandparents taught him the best way to deal with his mom was to lie to her. Now he lies to everyone he meets including family members and friends! How can I be sure he's a sociopath? I confronted him with the fact that he could be and that he needs help. Now he's just refusing to talk to me and decided that we should just be friends because he says there is nothing wrong with him. So, how can I be sure he is in fact a sociopath? I know sociopaths cannot change. BUT, if he is NOT a sociopath perhaps something can be done to help him and make changes. I feel bad for him. I am one of those people who feels sorry for people and wants to help them. Which is sometimes NOT a good way to be unfortunately. So, is he OR is he not a sociopath?
