Do you think this person is using me?
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I have a friend. He is just like a little brother to me. His dad passed away a few years ago and for the last two years I have been trying my very best to take care of him. I devote a lot of my energy, time and money to this little kid. He is now 18 years old. I'm 26. There are so many things that we did together, we went on many trips together, we went to a lot of museums, we went snowboarding, car racing, and alot of things. He never paid for any of it. For his 18th birthday, I got an iphone for him. He said he would pay every month for the phone bill. It's been 9 months since I got him the phone, he only paid once. He has two jobs now working at the mall. But he hardly pays for anything. He recently got a car. His grandmother, aunts and uncles gave him some money and he asked for 00 and I gave it to him. He said he would pay me back, but he never did. Not long after he got his car, he had to change his timing belt. He asked me to help him pay for it. It cost 0. He told me he would pay 0 but he never did. Last time he left his keys in the car and had me pay , said he would pay me back but never did. On my birthday he just drove me to work and didn't said almost nothing to me in the car. When I told him how I was feeling and how I felt like he doesn't even care about me. He would tell me that he does care. A week later he got me a card that said he loves me very very much and than got me a new ipod. But he only paid half for it becasue his sister paid for the other half. Later on I found out his sister paid for the whole thing and he never paid her the other half. We would have dinner at least once every week but he has only paid for maybe three or four times even though he has two jobs now. Last week, he asked me for because he said he ran out of money. He said he bought a lot of gifts for people. So I ended up giving him another . He never calls or text me to see how I am doing. Even though I always text him to see how he is doing. Although I introduce him to friends, co-workers and even my family as my brother, I have never heard him introduce me to his friends, his family as his brother. I added him on facebook a month ago. For some reason he wouldn't add me. When I asked him about, he would just say he is too busy or too lazy. But it only takes 5 seconds to go online and add me. He hardly ever tells me what he talks about with his co-workers and his friends. Even when I ask him about it, he would always just say, " random stuff." This has made me just feel very sad and like he is just using me. Please give me some advice and guidance. I am so confused.





Sounds like he sees you as a parental figure rather than a brother or friend. One of my friends did this exact thing to me but I stopped it before it got too far. Once I told her how I felt and what was going on she aplogized because she didn’t realize she was doing this. I would suggest you telling this person what’s going on. Let him know all of the things that you’ve done and that you are no longer going to help him out until he starts paying you back what he already owes you. The guy may not even realize what’s going on. Some people are just clueless. If you continue to bail him out, what are you teaching him? Nothing. You are teaching him that he never has to learn responsibility because you are always there to bail him out. How will he ever become an adult who can financially take care of himself if you continue to bail him out everytime he blows his money. Helping him like this is only hurting him. Good luck!
Probably not using you per se,just an average teenager and I bet he sees you more as a parental figure.