Am Having Extremely Hard Time Dealing With Empty Nest!Moms who’ve gone through this help!?
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My Babies have come of age and left the nest,3 of them(daughters)within a year and a half. I am having a HORRIBLE time adjusting to it. I can barely go into their old bedrooms, it tears me up, and I am feeling lost, and very lonely for them. I am happy for them that they are feeling independent, and spreading their wings, however, one moved 1,800 miles away, I am 45 years old and i feel spent , hopeless and confused. I don't know what my meaning in life is anymore really. I feel weepy,(one daughter just left after a 2 week visit) and I am crying like it just was the very first time she left.(sigh) How long does it take to find ones bearings again?Can anyone relate to the emptiness a mom feels when her babies say"Good Bye Mom" ? I have the harsh realization that I am done raising them, IT is over.Is this type of mourning to be expected?I have been having some profound thoughts and ideas of how my mothering time with them was ,My time with them in that aspect is over,and I am having a hell of a time, I was not so into my kids that I lost my personality and fun,but it was the biggest part of me for so many years, Any words of comfort from you mom's that may have felt and gone through the same thing? Sincere answers only please, I am fragile right now, Thank You .
now its me time what did you always want out of life ….think, take up painting ,decorate all the rooms get out more [YOUR KIDS ARE NOT DEAD THEY ARE MAD ALIVE] GO ON A HOLIDAY, go to bingo make new friends you are still a very young woman its hard i know but you have spent over 20 years minding your kids and that’s all you know now you have to make a new life for your self you actually forget how to live your kids wont thank you for it GET OUT AND ENJOY LIFE have you a husband ?if not go and look for companionship you feel lonely but hopefully not for long
Just pop another one out =]
JUST KIDDDING
dont worry, one of them is probably super curious…she will give you a grandbaby soon.
Hello..
First of all i am a Guy around 20 yrs of age. (hope you wont get mad)
You know, its very sad when your kids start to leave you, after all what you did for them, that you gave all what you’ve got to raise them good.
It really hurts…
You see, not all of the time your kids will going to spend time with you or be with you always. Time comes that they will grow up and going to think for themselves, make a decision and find a way for their life. They will going to choose what path are they want to walk through.
This is the reality of life that we cant keep forever everyone we love. I know that it is very hard for you that you misses them so much but you must stand up and be glad and proud that you have raised your children well and because of you they can easily choose the right path to walk through.
I hope i made you smile even just little.
Takecare of yourself
Alfred.
I’m 46 and going through the same thing. So your not alone. Good luck, and may God bless you!